"JUST Bi-CURIOUS or ARE You COMING OUT?" 

Over the last 7 years here - we have had millions of adult men pass through our own Bi MEN NETWORK and now our new twin brother Bi & GAY MEN NETWORK. Many of these men were and are just a tad bi-curious or merely experimenting. Yet many of the men that come our way are indeed wrestling with "coming out" as fully bisexual or gay men.

You may yourself just be a bi-curious guy - or experimenting with expanding your sexual horizons - or you may well be in the early stages of "coming out" - first to yourself - and then maybe over time to others. Or like many here you may have come to accept yourself as a bi man or gay male.

Coming out - as the GLBT mainstream community tends to call it - is both challenging and very exciting whether you are 16 or 60 or somewhere in between! It can also be a bit scary and often more scary in that you may have no one you are at ease discussing these "coming out" concerns, issues and fears with. This may be especially true if you are not living on the West Coast or in the DC to Boston corridor or on one of the islands of "enlightenment" between both coasts of the USA.

At any age - at any stage of life - exploring your own human sexuality requires introspection, self-awareness, and often brutal honesty. This can be a lot of hard work but it can also be a lot of fun too! Ignorance may indeed be bliss - but once you have opened that closet door there is really no going back - at least for yourself. Don't kid yourself. Yes - give yourself time - forgive yourself if you find you need to do so - but slowly yet surely move on to accepting yourself as a fully sexual being with needs, wants and desires that might not be to the liking of family, friends, colleagues.

Like snowflakes - we are all unique. Your needs, your wants, your desires are uniquely your own. Different strokes for different folks - indeed. Your "coming out" or your coming into your own as a uniquely sexual being is your own path. While you may meet fellow travelers on your path it is ultimately a lonely QUEST seeking greater self-understanding, self-forgiveness - and self-love. It is different for each and every one of us. It is good to talk with others, get their input, hear about their experiences but NO ONE - NO ONE - PERIOD - no matter who they are - can or should tell you or decide for YOU what is your personal - your very own - sexual orientation.

This may take a long time - and to your own amazement or amusement - it may change over time. It may change back and forth. Or you may be on a progression - straight - bisexual - then gay. BUT - human sexuality is very fluid - you may be a top one year and a bottom the next - you may be straight one year and gay the next. You may be asexual for a decade and then wake up ready to make up for lost time! But SEX is fun - and exploring your own sexuality should be fun and exciting.

These are just some of the issues that we DISCUSS at our Bi MEN GETAWAY WEEKENDS - so do check the EVENTS listings on our home page - middle right side - or go to the EVENTS pages no at: www.bimen.org/events.htm - and at www.bimen.org/events/DFW.htm

We have many resources on our website: including but not limited to these: Find the Bi 101 info at: www.bimen.org/Bi101.htm - and find the 10 Types of Bi Men - a fun, humorous look at the different types of straight bi men, bi bi men, gay bi men: www.bimen.org/10types.htm and some of our other bi-themed essays at: www.bimen.org/wednesday.htm

There are frankly NOT ENOUGH "coming out" resources for bisexual men and bi-curious men. BUT truth is truth and many of the gay "coming out" resources and materials are worthwhile - and it could be that you are grappling with coming out as a gay man. Good "coming out" resources are:

For other bisexual resources relevant to "coming out" or accepting one's bisexuality go to all the "usual suspects" at: www.bisexual.org+ www.bisexual.com + www.bi.org + www.allthingsbi.com


Hope you can join me at one of our Bi MEN GETAWAY WEEKENDS - this Fall in the Dallas, TX area and then our annual Spring Bi Men Getaway Weekend in Las Vegas, NV.

Watch here in our October 2005 NEWSLETTER for two exciting new programs across the USA and Canada in 80 major metropolitan areas: "Wednesday's Child" Happy Hours on Wednesdays - and "THE QUEST" on Sundays - both programs from 5 to 7 pm weekly for our bi and gay men and bi-curious and gay-curious guys to meet other like-minded adult male members across North America!

More chances to MEET other bi and gay men from our dual networks across NORTH AMERICA soon!

Best Wishes & Big Hugs,

Stewart ("Mac") McCloud
Founder and President
Bi MEN NETWORK - www.bimen.org
Bi & GAY MEN NETWORK - www.bigaymen.com

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"You are NOT alone!"

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